Do you find sometimes things just work out in one way or the other? I still haven't really given myself time to grief. I think it'll happen sometime 6 months after the fact and I will inevitably start bawling over what seems to be like nothing and Stefan will be real confused and scared. But today, other than the bloody heat, things have seemed to work out. I went to my favourite cheapie, good eats restaurant, Salad King (where they never actually serve any salad but really good Thai-Malaysian food) and had my favourite dish, Street Noodle Soup. The soup was cooked to perfection. Stefan had to stay over his mum's tonight as he had some early appointment in the middle of nowhere, so I have the place to myself to just be and do nothing. Tomorrow I head over to NY, so I can be with my brother Ken, who pretends that he's not affected by this all but I know deep down inside, he really is sad in his own way. So, in some ways, everything eventually works itself out.
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There is nothing better than a celebration of life. We celebrated Mateo's first birthday yesterday. Mateo is the son of Paulo (Stef's childhood friend) and Karen. It is so amazing to see how much he has grown over the year!! We can't wait to see what comes next.
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Posted in Joy-Friends
Life is many times uncertain whereas death is the one certainty that we all have. I never really know how to quite deal with death and grief, despite the fact that it is something I experience quite often, coming from a very large and tightly knit family.
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Ok, I don't want you to think that I am totally incompetent at the written word. Stef only edits when it's really bad mistypes.
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So Stefan sometimes edits my blog. Only because I am a hasty typer and I rarely ever re-read my stuff to make sure that all my t's are crossed and my grammar is correct. There are times when I do catch it but usually Mr. Anal Retentive will do it before I do. The thing with Stef is that he is also Mr. P.C and sometimes will omit or replace certain words because he thinks I will be offensive to someone out there. (Geez, we can't please everyone!) Anyways, he just told me of an edit that he did and really this time I think he's gone too far! Surely, I am allowed to call myself a retard? Sheesh!
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Posted in Me-ness
Stefan had bought me flowers for our anniversary and he usually tends to just buy those ready made bouquets so as nice a thought as it was, I was wondering why he kept bringing them up every time I would walk past by them. Turns out, he had actually gone to a flower store and hand picked them all. Silly boy! He should have just told me! I was accusing him of not being romantic and he was devastated when he realized that I thought they were just store bought bouquets when he had made such an effort. How's a girl to know?
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Posted in Stefan
Father-Daughter relationships are a little tricky, aren't they? Especially Asian ones, or maybe that's just me. Actually, I talked to a lot of my Asian friends and they seem to have had almost the same experience as me. You grow up thinking your dad is like this superhero and then at some point you grow up and your dad congratulates you on getting your period and you think to yourself, AWKWARD!
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Dearest Stefan,
I cannot believe that it has been five years since we had our first date. Where did the time go? It's true what they say - time does fly when you are having fun. And haven't we had so much fun? I remember our first date so vividly, where you made me starve. Actually, I made myself starve because I had misplaced my wallet before you picked me up and I didn't know whether you were going to pick up the check. I had just enough money to pay for my meal and for a cab ride home. But you had to wreck it all by being el Rico Suave and order the second most expensive wine on the list! I was left eating salad and now that you know my eating habits, you know how hard that was for me. You had the pork tenderloin special and my tummy was growling the entire time. What made it worse was that you ended up paying for it and I will never forgive you for it. If I had known, I would have ordered the whole menu.
An auspicious start to a very interesting adventure so far. I know things haven't been perfect as no relationship is. You still drive me crazy when we fight. Haven't I taught you anything after all these years? Fight like a brunette! Yell! Kick! Scream! Vent! Please! But instead, you still fight like a blonde, smoldering and stewing in your anger. Your eyes turn icy blue and the muscle at the side of your jaw ticks away while you simmer in silence. By the time you actually confront me with something, I've totally forgotten all about it as I've already blustered it out of my system.
Then, there is the fact that you're still almost always tardy and you get mad when I lie about the time we actually have to meet people. We have to actually attempt to pseudo be on time!! It's embarassing already! You still never really get around to cleaning the toilet and your sports still take priority of all our best summer hours. It drives me crazy that I can never stay too mad at you as you always know just what to say to make me laugh. Don't you know that girls like to have a good sulk once in a while and be allowed to be the martyr?
But you are also the boy who knows all my tiniest faults and finds them endearing. Like the time when I was on my earth saving spree and tried to make my own washing detergent? You knew that I would not have the patience to really work it out, but you kept your mouth shut and let me do my mad science in the kitchen. I love how you let me just bend and fold your limbs to fit me just so that I am comfortable while lying on you on the couch, even though you yourself are not that comfortable. Despite the fact that you are physically the largest, you always sleep with the least space if Mindy wants to honour us with her presence in the bed because it makes me happy to have her there.
Then there is my absurd love of food, for which you have none. But you still let me try to convince you to eat all the random vegetables that I inevitably buy from Chinatown. Or the times when I feel that I simply must have Vietnamese noodles at 3 am, and you will still go along with it.
I love how you are so patient with me, and how you make me feel safe. In the quiet of Sunday afternoons, I relish the times when it's just you, me and Mindy with a good book. I love how we can say nothing to each other and still feel like we're still connected. I look forward to what the next five years will bring.
Everyone always asks how I can travel so much and be okay. I can do that because I know at the end of the day, I always have you to come home to. Thank you for being my partner in crime, my lover and my best friend ever, ever.
Happy Anniversary!
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Every time I am here in B.C, I feel more and more that I should be here all the time. Despite a couple of days of rain, it has just been absolutely beautiful here. Life just seems to be a slightly different pace and everything is so unbelievably LUSH! Marie is probably snickering right now as I tend to exclaim that a lot when I am here but really, it's just so beautiful and green here.
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Another pseudo rainy day in Edmonton, the land of super malls. Surely, people here don't just shop all the time, so why the need? They already have the world's largest mall, you would think that would be enough. I'm not complaining as got some cute, little things at Century 21. My poor ipod Millie, seems to be a little sick and I need to take her to a doctor as soon as I get home. Her backlight is not working and the battery seems to be dying out pretty quickly. I am very concerned.....
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Everywhere I go it's rain, rain and more rain. Luckily, despite it all I have somehow managed to go without an umbrella because I have been in the car for most of the rainy parts. Some of the rivers in the Calgary area was looking pretty full so needless to say I was happy to make it north, thinking I would avoid the rain. Little did I know.
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I have been deprived of internet for almost four days and it has been KILLING me. Don't you know that I need an outlet for my overactive brain? I have to say that for some reason, this has been the worst planned trip on my part ever in terms of packing. People who know me know that this is an anomally as I am super anal when it comes to packing for travel trips. Obviously, my Alzheimer's seems to be kicking in. This is what I forgot to do - check the weather network and it has been freezing here in the prairies, pack any long sleeve tops so have been freezing my butt off as all stores seem to only sell tank tops now, any closed toe shoes so have been walking around with blue toes in flip flops, (problem rectified in Calgary), charger for phone and camera.
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Posted in Much To Do About Nothing
I love lazy Saturday afternoons. There is nothing that quite beats it. I am trying to make the most of it until my next road trip which will be on Monday. But as always, there are always chores to do and the big one this weekend was putting up the dreaded air conditioning system.
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Posted in Family Shenanigans, Much To Do About Nothing
I am always in awe of those spelling bee kids. Do you know how vast the English language is? The average human being only uses something like 1/200th of its entirety in the average lifetime. To have to learn all those words, it simply boggles the mind. The thing is the kids who usually wins those look like nerds but the truth is, they probably are. And please don't think that I am mocking them, because I am so not. I would have given anything to have had a giant nerd brain when I was younger.
Now that I am older, I have simply given up the nerd dream and hope that I can sucker my progeny into being one. And in case, you're wondering,
Main Entry: sphyg·mo·ma·nom·e·ter
Pronunciation: "sfig-mO-m&-'nä-m&-t&r
Function: noun
Etymology: Greek sphygmos pulse (from sphyzein to throb) +
International Scientific Vocabulary manometer
: an instrument for measuring blood pressure and especially arterial
blood pressure
- sphyg·mo·ma·nom·e·try /-m&-'nä-m&-trE/ noun
Merriem-Webster Dictionary
and it was one of the words spelt by the thirteen year old who won the latest spelling bee.
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Hmmm...I find it a little weird sometimes when I get comments on things that I wrote ages ago. Today, there was one on the Penis Schmenis entry and I was like - I wrote about penises? When? When?
So in addition to A.D.D and verbal diarrhea, I have obviously been developing a memory loss problem. But hey, I am happy that someone other than friends read this.
Thanks for all the comments. I think...
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So I finally watched Britney's newest venture, Chaotic and how do I put this plainly? Well...it totally sucks ASS! It is totally flagrant self love. It tries to be poignant and emotional but comes off as just plain dumb. Anyone who has any doubts about whether Kevin and Britney should be together is sadly mistaken. These two fools definitely deserve one another. I can't see how any other normal human being can put up with the combined stupidity.
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Posted in Good Monkey, Bad Monkey, Star Gazing
How do I find a job that lets me stay at home and write all day long, or make jewelry or do anything else other than what I am doing right now? That has been my thought as of late. Stefan says, "It's called winning the lottery."
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