Reading Rage
Thursday, April 6, 2006
I've been trying to get back into my reading groove and you know it's hard to figure out what you want to read. I go to the library and I try to pick out books that catch my eye in the different sections. It's rather overwhelming because sometimes there's so much choice and you can't always tell by the back flap. The book can sometimes look interesting and then it sucks.
Anyway, I realized that I had been neglecting male authors lately so I've been making a serious effort to consciously pick them up. You know, because it's important to get the opposite sex's point of view.
So this book, Man and Boy by Tony Parsons was my latest read. I don't want to generalize but the last five books that I've read by younger men have ALL dealt with the same subject.
Man is in relationship. Man goes through crisis. Man has one night stand. Woman leaves man. Man is lost without woman. Man needs to re-adjust to life. Woman is being impossible for not understanding his slip. Yada yada yada.
Boo-fucking-hoo. Cry me a river.
I know people cheat. It does happen. More than we think it does, so let's not lie to ourselves. It happens for many reasons. Everyone makes mistakes, I know that.
BUT, why is it such a popular topic for guys to write about? Is there no other intriguing life experience that they can talk about? I just want to know. Is this all they think about? It's just such a done storyline. It's like the cop out "I-need-to-create-tension" part of writing. And really, I don't feel sympathetic towards these characters. Cheating as an excuse to get out of a bad relationship is pathetic in my books. Be a man and just deal with it.
So, as I was reading this last night, I was also absolutely seething with rage. Stefan hates it when I read books with topics that bother me because I just get so upset. I started to ask him (I like to ask people, especially him, hypothetical questions -- it can be really fun) whether he would cheat and he just said, "Do I look stupid? Don't you know that I am afraid of you? I don't want my nuts chopped off and shoved down my throat."
I am glad he knows where we stand.
Comments (3) (Closed)
Oh boy! You just gave me another idea - threaten them badly and they'd be too afraid to cheat.
You should read Tony Parson's latest - The Family Way. At some part it says - "Men are born to plant their seeds everywhere". I told my bf about it and this is what he says, "It's kind of true. You women once becoming friends with someone, you remain friends forever. Men tend to change friends as they go along, they forget the friends they've met in the past once they leave the place. Remember the people we met in Bali? I've forgotten their names but I'm sure you remember them."
Gawd, I wonder what that means even if it's a little out of topic.You just gave me the idea to threaten!
p/s : Sorry for taking up so much space :)
I agree completely! I too get bored by the ubiquity of the topic; it makes me angry & upset, & I also had a similar conversation with my own beau. Sorry this comment's a little pointless: it's just good to hear it from someone else's mouth.
You're a fool. Yes that is all men think about.
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