little bitty girl

You can't turn on the TV these days without some poor Anna Nicole story. It's quite insane actually, how much news coverage this is getting especially considering that there are wars happening, the earth is melting and other more important things. The thing is, it's all a sad situation and the saddest part is that there is an innocent five month old child who has no idea what the heck is being made of her future life.

The latest battle is who gets to bury the poor woman's decomposing body. All the players are kind of suspect as far as I'm concerned: an estranged parent, an ex-boyfriend and a supposed partner/lawyer. The weirdest one for me is the estranged mother who has not been in her life for over fifteen years or so. She's the weird component because Anna Nicole has done several interviews stating how fervently she despises her mother. Her obvious hatred for the woman who gave birth to her was actually quite shocking, she was visibly shaking with her rage.

Which then brings me to ask, should your blood relative/parent have a right to your body or child once you are gone if there is no longer a relationship or even a strong one? I sincerely hope that someone's wishes (as written out in a will) gets upheld before any "blood" right. I realize that I am fortunate enough to have a great relationship with my family where not only do I love them as my family, but also as individuals and friends. But it is quite common for others not to feel the same way. They may not feel hatred like Anna Nicole but there might not be a closeness there that merits the family dictating what happens after. The general consensus among my friends is that our families are the ones we're born with, but our friends are the family we get to choose.

It'll be a sad thing if Anna's ultimate wishes to be buried near her son are not complied.

That being said, I want this out there so that there's no confusion as to what I want to happen when I go. I want to be cremated and my ashes spread by Stefan in the South of France and over the Carribean ocean. That way, people have a good excuse to go to those places. I don't want some sombre ceremony for my funeral. If it happens in the summer time, I want a great party in a park with live music, margaritas and Mexican food. If it happens in the winter, I want it to be at a really cool lounge, with dancing, good food and champagne. No one is to wear black unless they can make it look terribly chic.

I want to commemorate my life with joy and laughter for a life well lived (hopefully!).